What’s Your Name Again?

For the love of beer
The perfect place and beverage to share some casual conversation.

If we were having a beer, you would be moaning about having to drink alone for a couple of weeks.

Look, I know you were at your mom’s funeral and stuff, but I don’t think you should miss two Saturdays in a row.”

“Sorry, the timing wasn’t my idea.”

“I wouldn’t have thought you’d want to travel two weeks in a row.”

“I didn’t have much choice.”

“Well, I get the funeral, but why did you turn around and go right out to Iowa?”

“We already had those reservations. Faith and I had been planning to visit my mom.”

“Oh, sorry. Still, you couldn’t change that?”

“Between schedules and fees, it wasn’t going to be easy.”

“I guess you’re right.”

“So, what did I miss?”

“Hey, welcome back Dan. You didn’t miss much. He wasn’t very thirsty.”

“Cheryl! I thought we had an agreement…”

“You said: ‘don’t tell him I only had one glass of wine’ but I don’t think I agreed.”

“Cheryl, it’s good to see you, it’s good to be back, and the drinks are on me.”

“Well then. I’ll have a glass of Meiomi and whatever he wants, since he’s buying.”

“I’ll have a bottle of Yuengling, Cheryl.”

“Oh, and for the record, I left a good tip last week, I just didn’t spend much money.”

“You have to leave a better tip when you spend less.”

“What do you mean?”

“Well, for example, take the place where I get breakfast…”



“Is that why you named your dog Maddie?”

“Actually, yes, kinda. I mean, it’s a nice Irish sounding name.”

“It is, but a lot of people think your dog’s name is Maggie.”

“I know. Meanwhile, back at the point I was trying to make.”

“The one about how I don’t tip enough?”


“I tipped 20 percent.”

“That’s my point, I get an egg sandwich at Maddie’s for $4.50. Leaving a dollar would be a generous tip, by your measure, but it seems cheap.”

“So, leave a dollar and the change. That would be 30-percent.”

“I think you have to forget about percentages. I leave the change and a couple bucks.”

“Suit yourself, but that sounds extravagant, to me.”

“Here’s your wine, your beer, and I’m so glad you’re paying.”

“Aw Cheryl, don’t pick on me. No offense, but you are getting paid, and it’s not like delivering a beer or an egg sandwich is that much work.”

“Look, I love you guys but you do realize that I make less than minimum wage…right?”

“Less than minimum? How is that legal?”

“Because it’s the law. Restaurants can pay waitresses and bartenders less than minimum wage, because it’s assumed that we receive tips.”

“I knew that.”

“Well, I didn’t. That’s stupid. I think your employer should pay you a fair wage, and charge me a fair amount.”

“That would be nice, because, no offense, most people tip like you.”

“Maybe I’ll reconsider the tip amount, in the future. OK, back to your trip, any good meals?”


“I mean besides Eat’n Park. I know Faith was with you.”

“Ha ha, yeah we did stop there, but we had lunch before leaving Pittsburgh at a nice little Lebanese restaurant. And, when we were in Iowa, we had breakfast at the Grove Café.”

“Good Lebanese food? ‘Cuz some places mess that up.”

“This stuff was good. Even my brother said so, and he makes a lot of those dishes.”

“Speaking of food, you boys want anything?”

“I’ve been two weeks without wings, Cheryl. Bring us an order of 20.”

“Parm-pep for you. What about this guy?”

“This guy prefers the traditional standard blue cheese.”

“Another round with the food?”


“As long as he’s still paying, yes.”

“So much for your reconsidering the amount of money you spend.”

“Oh, I’m all over that. I’m going to watch very closely to see that you leave Cheryl a good tip.”

Today’s photos are for the foodies.


    1. We did enjoy some good food, Judy. I think, when family comes together for these things, it’s the good times they share that moves them through and carries them forward. The pistachio cheesecake was amazing.


    2. I forgot to mention. They tried to eliminate the restaurant worker portion of the minimum wage law two years ago, but some pretty intense lobbying kept in place. CT min wage is $10.10 but waitresses can be paid $6.30-ish.

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  1. I remember my father telling me that one reason to tip well for good service was that other customers had probably tipped poorly (if at all). Not that that was the main reason, of course, but that it should be a consideration. I’ve seen the crap some waiters and waitresses have to put up with, and not always from customers. The whole bit about who’s paid what and why (the stuff we hear from Mr. Pink!) is for me a distraction. Those debates don’t change the fact that, right here and now, someone has been friendly and hustled and done a good job. I can include at least 15 percent for that. I’m not saying to be profligate (or even give 20 percent no matter what — forget that), but life’s too short to hold on to an extra buck or two because “the system” is bad. That’s not the waiter’s or waitress’s fault.

    Anyway, good food pics! You’re making me hungry for lunch, and I haven’t even had breakfast yet …

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    1. Thanks Paul. I agree, we have to work with what we have. “Cheryl” gets a nice tip. She also comps me a beer, so I feel like I should return the favor. It’s an imperfect system, but we can make it work.

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  2. Somehow it just seems wrong to be looking at plates of food at 7 am … especially the pistachio cheesecake and baklava cheesecake. If I cave-in to some decadent sweet at some point today I will be firmly planting the blame on the images from this post ;)

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    1. I’ll take the blame, Joanne. If I don’t include the photos, people yell at me. If it’s any consolation, I haven’t had those wings for three weeks, and I’ve been craving them since I wrote this. That cheesecake was amazing, just so you know.

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  3. If I still ate dairy, I’d be extremely attracted to the cheesecake. All of the food looks delicious, especially the spring rolls.

    Thank goodness you made it back to the bar. I think your readers were getting pretty thirsty waiting for you.

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    1. Those spring rolls were light as a feather. I could eat them all day. We were stuffed at the Lebanese place but the cheesecake looked so good I couldn’t resist. I split it with my brother, so no calories were involved.

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  4. Yes, yes, yes! I am right there with you on the tipping. (Not JUST cuz I’m the bartender either 🙄) Breakfasts tend to be inexpensive meals. If I walk out with a bill of less than ten dollars there is no way I am leaving less than a dollar and some change. And if someone is really genuine, and I am inspired I might just leave them the change from the ten. That’s why they call it a tip. And that’s why I loathe the few places that add the tip in for larger tables. Not only are you taking money that no one has earned (yet) but you are predetermining what this wait person deserves. I get why it has come to that, knowing people stiff wait staff constantly, but I have been in a few situations where our “large group” got terrible service. I have also had a time or two where I saw servers trying to please impossible folks and handed them a bill on the way out. Their base pay is akin the indentured service as far as I’m concerned. But it is difficult to see an easy way out.
    So glad to see you back at the bar Dan. I know it has been a rough month for you. Big hugs. Oh, and, hey. Did you smuggle out a piece of that ridiculously delicious looking Baklava Cheesecake?
    Yeah…..I thought not. Now that would have a stellar tip! 😀

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    1. When they passed our new minimum wage last year, they tried to do away with the waitress/bartender exemption but left it in under lobbying pressure. But, they made it illegal for restaurants to add in a minimum tip for large parties. The bartender you fill in for had a party of 25 people in the lounge one Saturday this past winter. They had her running around like crazy. She kept apologizing for being late with our stuff (which she really wasn’t), but she was the only person on duty. We watched as she ran back and forth and refilled every soda for a bunch of children with a big smile.

      After the large party left, the bartender was crying. We asked why and she showed us the slip from the large party. The folks had run up a bill of almost $500 and left the bartender about $11 as a tip. We, her regulars at the bar, took up a collection on the spot.

      Sorry I couldn’t ship a piece of the Baklava Cheesecake – Faith had that, but I had a taste. It was amazing.

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      1. Yeah, I do understand why they do that. And the owner of the restaurant could care less how much harder the server(s) have to work. There should be a bonus for large groups. I think that is one reason many restaurants went to shared tips. Of course there is always a wrench in the spokes. No incentive to do more for lazy employees. There is always a kink isn’t there? Because human beings are human beings….☹️


    1. Thanks Deborah. The Eat ‘n Park / Park ‘n Eat question was raised before. I think the reason was that there was another restaurant called Park & Eat at the time this chain was founded. But, I’ve also read that the owners liked the way Eat ‘n Park sounded better. In any case, it’s our favorite stop on a very long ride.

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  5. Oh, yeah, foodie photos! Yum! I remember my waitressing days and not necessarily fondly. My first high school summer job was at a cafe and doughnut shop where we got lots of construction works and they didn’t tip well or, often, at all. One of the last days I worked there, one of the young men who never tipped was giving me a hard time, joshingly, about something. I told him, “Just take it out of my tip.” All the other guys laughed and he did leave a tip that day. On the other hand, there was a lovely older man who would order only coffee and then leave a very large tip, as you were talking about in your post. Of course, coffee was a lot less expensive then and there was only coffee, no coffee drinks that cost the earth. :-) I would waitress again, but only if it stood between me and starvation, I think.


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    1. I only worked in food service once, Janet, and tipping was not allowed/expected (serving food on a dinner cruise where the meal was included in the entry fee). I don’t understand being stiffed, but I understand dealing with people, and I have always had a soft spot in my heart for a hard-working waitress.


      1. The other side of tipping is that it’s based on service and I’ve had occasion to leave not quite so generous a tip when service has been inexcusably bad or, in one memorable case in Toronto years ago, arrogant and dismissive.

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          1. Here’s the problem as I see it. Tipping used to be based on how good the service was. It’s now become required and at a certain level, making it really no longer a tip in the original sense. But I’ve also read that at places that started paying their waitstaff (how PC I am!) a fair wage and then said that tipping wasn’t accepted/required, people still tipped, mostly because they’re so used to it. In Europe, you might leave a few coins that you get in change, but you don’t tip in our sense of the word.

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            1. I have read about the places that are trying fair wage / no tip pricing. I’d be fine with that. The part I don’t like is the myriad tip jars that are set out in all manner of places. Sometimes, those tips don’t even go to employees. My only bad experience was a guy at an airport that demanded a tip, even though I had put my own bag in the cab. He opened the trunk lid, after the driver popped the latch. The driver was mad at me for not tipping the guy.

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  6. OMG — Baklava cheesecake! How can perfection get MORE perfect??? Man! All that food looks amazing, except for the “ham.” That ain’t ham. That’s what my late mother-in-law used to call “blowed-in-a-bag ham.” But the good stuff more than makes up for that atrocity. ;)

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  7. Another two of my cents’ worth. One of my sons was a coffee house barista for a few years. Sometimes he brought home enough tips to pay his rent. And that was from a shared jar. As with all things in this dream, there is no black and white definitive. If we could all be more compassionate. Ummm please describe that cheesecake bite for me. I love baklava!

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    1. A coffee house barista deserves a tip. Faith also worked that gig for a while. I saw a tip jar last week at the convenience store attached to a self-serve gas station. All the did was take my money for an over-priced bag of chips!

      We have made baklava. My grandmother’s was killer stuff. She wouldn’t even use packaged filo dough. She stretched her own!

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  8. Eat and Park? Is that another way of saying Drive In? I had a friend who was dissatisfied with her coffee and dropped a penny in the cup after telling the waiter off – she was banned from that cafe forever! So I always over tip.

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    1. Eat ‘n Park used to be the kind of place where waitresses roller skated to your car and brought food to on a tray that hung off your window. I never take bad food out on the waitress.


  9. Yes, I will have the breakfast, the coffee, the dumplings, and both of those cheesecakes, thanks. And I will tip well, I promise.
    I have waited tables, so, you know, I KNOW. I have helped my husband KNOW. I hear people all the time sayin stuff like, “I don’t like how restaurants expect ME to pay for their employees.” They should just stay home then. If they wanna punish restaurants, not tipping the server isn’t the answer. *sigh*

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  10. The pictures make me hungry…ahaha…even early in the morning at 7am. Nice to learn some new foods, and the vegetable rolls and the dumplings look like the Chinese style, so familar! Hahah… :-)

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    1. That’s interesting. This was a Thai restaurant, and the rolls and dumplings seemed unusual to us. Here, vegetable rolls in Chinese restaurants are usually thinner and dumplings are semi-circles but flatter. I hope you have a great day.


  11. Was getting parched Dan, but I understand the extenuating circumstances. Great to catch up for a beer again.
    And your dialog about tipping brings back some very distant (but fond) memories. Waiting tables while I was finishing up my undergrad gave me a new appreciation for good service. My tipping scale has never been the same since.

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    1. Thanks Gabe. I hope the beers were worth the wait. Good service is a real treat. I’m happy to leave s nice tip when someone makes sure I enjoy my meal/beer.


    1. When I was in England, that seemed to be the case. My British friend let me leave a very small tip at lunch, much less than I would ever leave here. I left a tip in my hotel room for the housekeeper, but it was never taken.

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  12. In Costa Rica all tips and taxes are included in the price of your meals. On the rare occasion it is not, there is usually a sign. 10% gratuity and their sales tax. We would sometimes leave more if service was excellent as it so often was.

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